Comments on: Emotional Eating: Why I Eat http://sweet-potatopie.com/blog/2009/04/15/black-womens-health-emotional-eating-why-i-eat/ The Health and Fitness Magazine for African-American Women Mon, 21 May 2012 05:00:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: 8 Weeks to a Better Body Challenge: Current Weight: 170lbs Goal Weight: 140lbs » Sweet Potato Pie http://sweet-potatopie.com/blog/2009/04/15/black-womens-health-emotional-eating-why-i-eat/#comment-10208 8 Weeks to a Better Body Challenge: Current Weight: 170lbs Goal Weight: 140lbs » Sweet Potato Pie Sun, 06 Sep 2009 13:17:46 +0000 http://sweet-potatopie.com/?p=852#comment-10208 [...] 30lbs I’ve accumulated since I’ve moved back home. It’s been an uphill battle for reasons that I’ve documented on this blog, but now my little one is in Kindergarten my momma is on the mend and I’m tired of being fat [...] [...] 30lbs I’ve accumulated since I’ve moved back home. It’s been an uphill battle for reasons that I’ve documented on this blog, but now my little one is in Kindergarten my momma is on the mend and I’m tired of being fat [...]

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]]> By: HalfMan http://sweet-potatopie.com/blog/2009/04/15/black-womens-health-emotional-eating-why-i-eat/#comment-10206 HalfMan Tue, 21 Apr 2009 12:56:13 +0000 http://sweet-potatopie.com/?p=852#comment-10206 Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my blog. I know a little bit of the stress you feel and feeling helpless in the face of a long drawn out ordeal until you can get your life back. For myself, I have come to the conclusion that I cannot wait for circumstances to make my life better, to feel happier, or to get control of my life back. Very few things ever turn out the way I hope and expect, and even when they do, it wasn't all I thought it would be. I discovered that I have to learn to be happy and content no matter the circumstances I face. I am still working on it. It has not been an over night change. What I do is try to account for all the good things I have in my life. I have to remind myself to be thankful for what I have rather than be resentful for what I don't have. I have to remind myself that how I respond to my circumstances is the model my children are learning for them to deal with their own problems. Sometimes, I just have to try to act the way I want to feel which is really hard to do. I have learned that I cannot be isolated. As much as I have felt depressed and wanted to be alone, being around others forces me out of the "poor me" self-destructive thinking. Anyhow, that is how I have faced my own issues. Finally, exercise helps me to think through issues including my own eating habits (I have a sweet tooth, but I find that the pleasure it gives doesn't outweigh the depressant affects of too much sugar). Anyhow, that's how I have been dealing with my own issues. Am I happy all the time? No. Am bursting with positive energy? No. But I no longer dread the days. I no longer think, "I can't wait until when..." My days are full of things to do that I am thankful that God has given me ability to do. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my blog. I know a little bit of the stress you feel and feeling helpless in the face of a long drawn out ordeal until you can get your life back. For myself, I have come to the conclusion that I cannot wait for circumstances to make my life better, to feel happier, or to get control of my life back. Very few things ever turn out the way I hope and expect, and even when they do, it wasn’t all I thought it would be. I discovered that I have to learn to be happy and content no matter the circumstances I face. I am still working on it. It has not been an over night change. What I do is try to account for all the good things I have in my life. I have to remind myself to be thankful for what I have rather than be resentful for what I don’t have. I have to remind myself that how I respond to my circumstances is the model my children are learning for them to deal with their own problems. Sometimes, I just have to try to act the way I want to feel which is really hard to do. I have learned that I cannot be isolated. As much as I have felt depressed and wanted to be alone, being around others forces me out of the “poor me” self-destructive thinking. Anyhow, that is how I have faced my own issues. Finally, exercise helps me to think through issues including my own eating habits (I have a sweet tooth, but I find that the pleasure it gives doesn’t outweigh the depressant affects of too much sugar). Anyhow, that’s how I have been dealing with my own issues. Am I happy all the time? No. Am bursting with positive energy? No. But I no longer dread the days. I no longer think, “I can’t wait until when…” My days are full of things to do that I am thankful that God has given me ability to do.

]]> By: Sacha http://sweet-potatopie.com/blog/2009/04/15/black-womens-health-emotional-eating-why-i-eat/#comment-10205 Sacha Mon, 20 Apr 2009 20:39:24 +0000 http://sweet-potatopie.com/?p=852#comment-10205 Tamika, YOU ARE NOT SUPERWOMAN, so don't try to be it. Too many BW take the world on their SMALL SHOULDERS and they shouldn't. You don't have to be the STRONG BLACK WOMAN. The STRONG BW LABEL wears old. If you feel you need to JET, then JET. Do what you have to do for YOU, which will also be for YOUR Daughter. Let your mother fend for herself. As for your sisters, I would hope the rest of your family or the father would pitch in. Maybe even take on the respondibility of caring for them. All IN ALL, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Tamika, YOU ARE NOT SUPERWOMAN, so don’t try to be it. Too many BW take the world on their SMALL SHOULDERS and they shouldn’t. You don’t have to be the STRONG BLACK WOMAN. The STRONG BW LABEL wears old. If you feel you need to JET, then JET. Do what you have to do for YOU, which will also be for YOUR Daughter. Let your mother fend for herself. As for your sisters, I would hope the rest of your family or the father would pitch in. Maybe even take on the respondibility of caring for them. All IN ALL, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.

]]> By: Delishmish http://sweet-potatopie.com/blog/2009/04/15/black-womens-health-emotional-eating-why-i-eat/#comment-10204 Delishmish Sun, 19 Apr 2009 02:44:24 +0000 http://sweet-potatopie.com/?p=852#comment-10204 Hang in there Tamika..no situation lasts forever..so just give it a little bit of time...and be sure to take care of YOU. Take a yoga class, get OUT of the house with your daughter, see a movie. When you feel like eating that pie, put a mask on your face instead, read a book...have a cup of hot tea with milk and honey...ask yourself how you will REALLY feel after you eat something knowing that you are eating for comfort...IOW STOP and think..take the time to love yourself..and talk to your Mother...but be gentle..very gentle. Gather other relatives, share the burden...you don't have to take all of this on yourself. Even speak to a Pastor at a local church. Sometimes when we reach out for help, we get more than we ever asked for. Don't be afraid to ask for help. You don't have to do things alone. I wish you well. You have a wonderful life NOW, and ahead of you. Don't lose sight of that!!! Hang in there Tamika..no situation lasts forever..so just give it a little bit of time…and be sure to take care of YOU. Take a yoga class, get OUT of the house with your daughter, see a movie. When you feel like eating that pie, put a mask on your face instead, read a book…have a cup of hot tea with milk and honey…ask yourself how you will REALLY feel after you eat something knowing that you are eating for comfort…IOW STOP and think..take the time to love yourself..and talk to your Mother…but be gentle..very gentle. Gather other relatives, share the burden…you don’t have to take all of this on yourself. Even speak to a Pastor at a local church. Sometimes when we reach out for help, we get more than we ever asked for. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You don’t have to do things alone. I wish you well. You have a wonderful life NOW, and ahead of you. Don’t lose sight of that!!!

]]> By: Oshun http://sweet-potatopie.com/blog/2009/04/15/black-womens-health-emotional-eating-why-i-eat/#comment-10203 Oshun Sat, 18 Apr 2009 16:47:37 +0000 http://sweet-potatopie.com/?p=852#comment-10203 Oh wow dear, Your mom is very young and so are your sisters. I am so sorry that you are dealing with so much alone. I really hate that your mother's behavior has alienated so many people and that she is being so cruel when you are the only one helping her. I do think that it would be wise to contact someone, maybe an ombudsman still, because this is too much for one person to handle alone even if your mom was the sweetest person in the world. Maybe there is something out there for your mom despite her age. perhaps there are some resources for her particular illnesses. I am so sorry that you are dealing with so much. My concern is that you may get depressed, if you are not there already, and that is another problem that you do not need to deal with. I agree with the others in that you need some space - something of your own no matter how small. I am getting a picture of what your mother may be like and one thing I can say is - you can't let her win. It sounds like you are amazingly overwhelmed and rightfully so. You always have some power and choices even if that means leaving as you stated. Thinking of you... Oh wow dear,

Your mom is very young and so are your sisters. I am so sorry that you are dealing with so much alone. I really hate that your mother’s behavior has alienated so many people and that she is being so cruel when you are the only one helping her.

I do think that it would be wise to contact someone, maybe an ombudsman still, because this is too much for one person to handle alone even if your mom was the sweetest person in the world. Maybe there is something out there for your mom despite her age. perhaps there are some resources for her particular illnesses.

I am so sorry that you are dealing with so much. My concern is that you may get depressed, if you are not there already, and that is another problem that you do not need to deal with. I agree with the others in that you need some space – something of your own no matter how small.

I am getting a picture of what your mother may be like and one thing I can say is – you can’t let her win. It sounds like you are amazingly overwhelmed and rightfully so.

You always have some power and choices even if that means leaving as you stated.

Thinking of you…

]]> By: arthur http://sweet-potatopie.com/blog/2009/04/15/black-womens-health-emotional-eating-why-i-eat/#comment-10202 arthur Sat, 18 Apr 2009 16:05:45 +0000 http://sweet-potatopie.com/?p=852#comment-10202 Tamika - Please check your email Tamika – Please check your email

]]> By: Tasha212 http://sweet-potatopie.com/blog/2009/04/15/black-womens-health-emotional-eating-why-i-eat/#comment-10201 Tasha212 Sat, 18 Apr 2009 15:57:07 +0000 http://sweet-potatopie.com/?p=852#comment-10201 I just wanted to stop by and tell you that everything is going to be alright and that I wish you the best during this time of agrdship. Are there any other relative that can help take care of your mother and the kids, maybe once a week, so you can have a break? Just a suggestion. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I just wanted to stop by and tell you that everything is going to be alright and that I wish you the best during this time of agrdship. Are there any other relative that can help take care of your mother and the kids, maybe once a week, so you can have a break? Just a suggestion. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

]]> By: admin http://sweet-potatopie.com/blog/2009/04/15/black-womens-health-emotional-eating-why-i-eat/#comment-10200 admin Sat, 18 Apr 2009 15:37:22 +0000 http://sweet-potatopie.com/?p=852#comment-10200 First, I'll say thanks to everyone for commenting and your words of encouragement and to Tracy for rounding up the troops...lol. To fill in some holes my mother isn't old...she's 48. My sisters are 7 and 8 and my daughter is 4. My mom has to have a second open heart surgery. Right now she is home between surgeries. And yes she has home health aides, they are here during the day..right now not they aren't here so much b/c she's just home between surgeries. But the home health aides don't mean anything. My mother creates enough work for an army of people. The issues with me and her exist even if she wasn't sick. The sickness just makes me home bound and under her constant control which is ultimately her goal. Yes she has siblings and friends and other relatives and she's managed to isolate all of them through the course of this sickness and most of them have obligations that don't allow them to sit with her for any length of time, though they will drive me around to complete errands and my godmother watches my siblings during the week. Right now I'm just trying to figure out how do I get through all of this again. The last 6 weeks has been grueling to say the least. The two weeks before the surgery I was hiding in my room because she was on the warpath and now I have to start all over from 0. So whatever light is at the end of the tunnel is way far off and I'm one meltdown away from packing my bags, grabbing my kid and leaving. So things are a tad stressful right now to say the least. First, I’ll say thanks to everyone for commenting and your words of encouragement and to Tracy for rounding up the troops…lol.

To fill in some holes my mother isn’t old…she’s 48. My sisters are 7 and 8 and my daughter is 4.

My mom has to have a second open heart surgery. Right now she is home between surgeries. And yes she has home health aides, they are here during the day..right now not they aren’t here so much b/c she’s just home between surgeries.

But the home health aides don’t mean anything. My mother creates enough work for an army of people. The issues with me and her exist even if she wasn’t sick. The sickness just makes me home bound and under her constant control which is ultimately her goal.

Yes she has siblings and friends and other relatives and she’s managed to isolate all of them through the course of this sickness and most of them have obligations that don’t allow them to sit with her for any length of time, though they will drive me around to complete errands and my godmother watches my siblings during the week.

Right now I’m just trying to figure out how do I get through all of this again. The last 6 weeks has been grueling to say the least. The two weeks before the surgery I was hiding in my room because she was on the warpath and now I have to start all over from 0.

So whatever light is at the end of the tunnel is way far off and I’m one meltdown away from packing my bags, grabbing my kid and leaving. So things are a tad stressful right now to say the least.

]]> By: lormarie http://sweet-potatopie.com/blog/2009/04/15/black-womens-health-emotional-eating-why-i-eat/#comment-10199 lormarie Sat, 18 Apr 2009 14:40:31 +0000 http://sweet-potatopie.com/?p=852#comment-10199 Does your mom have insurance that will pay for a home health aide? Things will get better. Does your mom have insurance that will pay for a home health aide? Things will get better.

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